Paralanguage– or ‘How You Doin’?’

When you talk to your partner over the phone or through a Facebook Face-Time call, have you ever noticed how during that conversation you or your partner change the tone of voice you use when you discuss things that you like, or want to relay a certain emotion? Well – that’s paralanguage! All it simply encompasses is how you manipulate the tone of your voice in your conversation. This is an important aspect within communication, because it helps portray your emotions further and thus helps your partner understand you even better. In addition, when you match your partners’ tone of voice, it also helps in increasing the perceived responsiveness as we mentioned. Meaning, when your partner sounds excited about a new movie they found on Netflix, try and match their excitement even if you’re not a big fan of thrillers. This doesn’t mean you should lie to them and not disclose your own opinions afterwards, however, when you match their energy with your own tone of voice while being genuine – it brings about more trust and connection between you. In short – try to sound accommodating to your partner so that both of you are in sync! Especially when you have to bear with the struggles of a long-distance relationship, sounding genuinely excited to hear your partner helps bring about all those ‘fuzzy warm feelings of romance’ back into your relationship and keep it going! In fact, when you add the factors we have discussed so far with impression-management, active listening and include paralanguage, you will find that your relationship will feel different – a good and satisfied different. To add to it, an occasional seductive voice session can very much boost your egos and self-esteems despite the physical distancing, and in combination with our suggested adult LDR gadgets and ideas for cybersex sessions, distance won't seem so lonely!